Isnt this sensible

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open,
and after you marry, close one eye."

Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let
lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low
self-esteem, make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and
don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as
faults aren't really important.

Once you decide to commit to someone, over time his or her flaws,
vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious.
If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve,
you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing
bother you.

You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs,
values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual
children of God who have decided to share a life together.
Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you
bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with
each other, or do you compete, compare, and control?

What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships,
past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone to the altar
to alter him or her. You can't make someone love you or make someone
stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life",
you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your
happiness or responsible for your pain. Manipulation, control, jealousy,
neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving,
healthy, loving and lasting relationship! Seeking status,wealth, and
security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

What keeps a relationship strong?
Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor,sharing household
tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily
exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note).
Leave a nice message on the voicemail or send an email.

Share common goals and interests. Growth is important. Grow together,
not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without
feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interests. You can't
always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances
of commitment. Don't try to control one another. Learn each other's
family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless.
Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer
or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will
erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain
replace the passion.
- Someone

I received the above from someone today ! and I thought it had to be here in my blog as it makes so much sense ! i wish everyone gets to read this !

The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is where you put the "I" !